Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Recent Realization

It seems it's true. The more things change, the more they stay the same.
Growing up in both Zanesville, Ohio and Clarksburg, West Virginia, I was a loner for various reasons.
Recently, I went to a dance party with a group I'm with, CRU. It was joined by a similar group, BCM. It was for Valentine's Day, or as singles know it, Singles Awareness Day.
One reason I went was for a (hopeful) chance to dance with a certain friend of mine. After all, there were swing dance instructors!
Unfortunately, much as I seriously wanted to ask this lass to dance (let alone get on the dance floor), I simply couldn't get myself to actually do it.
I desired it.
I wanted to do it.
I saw it as enjoyable.
Yet I couldn't get myself to take the chance. My friend went on the floor, had a great time dancing with a few mutual friends, was happy with doing so. I was happy for her. Yet sad for myself. A little bit later, I got the chance to talk with my friend that I simply can't dance.
All this time, I thought it was because my parents didn't have a dancing gene to give me. Then again, my mother did dance as an exercise when she was in her 20's (no, I'm not saying her age now, either).
As I did some soul searching, I realized the problem was far deeper than genetics. It was my self-esteem, which was fractured as a child.
With my self-esteem being broken starting at an early age (10), my worldview was bleak. No friends, no way to get friends, no way to get help when needed, etc. Even after moving in with my mother at 12, I would start a truly long journey to break out of that shell. Even so, some side effects longer, as I'm still discovering to my chagrin.
It may also be the reason I'm not too good at evangelizing, something Christians are told to. Most would think it's simple shyness, which is a problem I've had since I can remember.
Or, possibly, a mix of the two.
As an end of this post, remember this: that saying about sticks, stones, and broken bones is a lowsy saying.

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

A couple new things

So, I'm off Facebook, officially. Finally. When things get better grounded, I have more important things to look forward to than the newest trends, most hateful political posts, etc.
Like really getting back to my stories. I'm even going to try drawing a map of a fictional town to visualize what's happening where.
I'm still without power so it's a mixed blessing. No heat, so I'm cold. However, no TV so I can read more.
I suppose this is more a general update.
The biggest update, though:
FINALLY GETTING MY OWN PLACE! Well, a place outside of my folks' place (I'm in the right age range for a Millennial, but have no interest in acting like one) and closer to where I work. But I have to wait til summer to move.
I also recently went to a Baptist Church. I thought there was a reason I quit going to those as a teen. Really had no choice in the matter since my car's broken down (yet again) and my local church is in town. No, I don't plan on walking 16-20 miles in the snow just to get to town. All the more reason to get excited for the new place! Plus, whenever I get the laptop I'm looking forward to, I can focus on my days off on my craft, honing it, finishing my ideas.
Here's to praying for the best.